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Thursday, November 10, 2011

I'll Have What I'm Having!


I was recently interviewed for the second time by the amazing Sage Knight, who writes the "Living Well" column for the Topanga Messenger. Instead of talking "dreams" like we did in the previous article, we spoke about "Human Design." 

Human Design doesn't relate as much to nighttime dreams as it relates to the realm of daytime desires. In Human Design, as you will discover in this article you get a user's manual for yourself...which I have found to be one of my greatest tools that I use both personally and professionally.

I believe that if we can "see" ourselves (the one of a kind creatures we are), its easier to "be" ourselves...and eventually truly LOVE ourselves. Once this occurs, we can start loving the one we're with (which is always ourselves), stop coveting what everyone else has (or seems to has), and instead of always saying "I'll have what she's having," we'll start saying, "I'll have what I'M having!"  

Enjoy Sage's article...Happy reading!

Life is good and you are meant to enjoy it. You are designed to feel confident and comfortable in your own skin, fulfilled, on purpose, and also to have a deep understanding of how to relate with others.

Problem is, most people don’t know their innate design. They try to fit in, to do what others tell them will make them happy, healthy, wealthy and wise. But what works for someone else may not work for you; we are all different. The good news is that your blueprint for success is within you and you can access it.

Human Design (HD), a system which combines astrology, the I Ching, the chakra system, and the Kabbalah can give you a “map to the nature of your being.” The system uses your birth place and time to generate a “bodygraph,” a map of energy centers similar to chakras, or the organ centers in Chinese medicine. Each center represents an area of being: the heart center represents willpower, the solar plexus, feeling, etc. 

The centers are each either “defined” or “open” and are either connected to each other or not. These two qualities determine whether you bring a particular energy into a situation or relationship or are more easily influenced by others who do. For example, my throat is defined and is also connected to my mental awareness center, which is also defined. So, I can usually access inspired ideas and express them with ease. Hence, my career as an inspirational writer, speaker and coach. I am designed for what I do. 

It is equally valuable to know what you are not designed to do. This frees up energy for your areas of talent and effectiveness. HD helps with that too. There are five different HD configuration types, and each has a “life strategy” that incorporates that type’s strong points. I am a Projector. By design, the Projector’s “life strategy” is to “wait to be invited.” This explains why I don’t like marketing; Projectors don’t hard sell. We drop hankies, letting folks know we are here. I enjoy selling as long as someone shows up ready to buy and simply needs help with my service, but I don’t like trying to get anyone to buy. Luckily, I don’t have to. I can follow my design and still generate business. And I have.

I received my first editing assignment when a bestselling author recognized my talent and hired me on the spot. I had no idea I was an editor even though I’d been doing it for several years. I’d simply sent her an article and then edited it at her request. I booked another client in a similar way. While meeting with my midwife to get a document signed, I handed her my business card. She said, “You’re a literary midwife? Perfect. I knew I’d meet the editor of my book on this trip, and I knew she would be a former client.” I hadn’t seen her in years and didn’t even know she had a book. She signed and referred a friend. Most of my work comes this way. I drop a hankie. 

Human Design helps with personal relationships as well. I learned that I am the only one in my family with both the heart and solar plexus centers defined and connected. This explained two things: 

First, I am an emotional force of nature — without knowing it. I impact the room, so I can light it up like the sun or bulldoze innocent bystanders, depending on my mood. This can be great for a speaker. For a mom too, as long as I remain mindful of the emotional power I carry and give everyone space when I’m not in happy-camper mode.

Second, the connection between these two centers explains why I look out for everyone in my tribe — and expect them to do the same. To my surprise, not everyone has innate loyalty. Some do, some don’t. It’s not personal. They might not have that connecting line. Those of us who do have it need to clearly communicate our needs, instead of expecting others to know.

Bottom line: everyone is designed uniquely. Like stars fallen to earth, we shine in different colors. You can be who you are. In fact, that is the easiest route to success and joy. You don’t have to do things you’re told should work if they don’t work for you; you can find a way that does. It helps to know your inner design, so you can follow your own “life strategy.”

I want the best skill set available, and Human Design gave me key components. I received my chart and professional interpretation from certified Human Design Analyst Kelly Sullivan Walden whom I highly recommend. She is intuitive, brilliant, and an absolute delight. One of her clients says she is “better than chocolate!” See for yourself. 

Living By Human Design

“SEE Yourself, BE Yourself, LOVE Yourself.” — Kelly Sullivan Walden

The Five Human Design Types:

1. Manifestor — initiates and communicates action.

2. Generator — gets a yes or no by gut feeling; waits to respond.

3. Manifesting Generator — combines above two; must stay open to revising their plan.

4. Projector — waits to be invited.

5. Reflector — all centers “open”; knows self through experiences with others.

To receive your “personal instruction manual for your life,” click HERE